The SeamLess Life

Tip #14 - December 14, 1998

About the Author:

Sherry Lowry, MA/MS, M.C.C., is a professional mentor and business coach for executives, business owners, other coaches, psychologists/ therapists, and professionals in transition. She has developed seven businesses, including one non-profit with 20,000 clients. Sherry leads group telephone conferences and trainings with other field experts on marketing with heart, using public speaking in marketing, and for therapists transitioning as coaches. A board member on the International Coach Federation, Sherry is credentialed at their Master Certifed Coach level and participates in the Professional Coaches’ and Mentor’s Association.

Contact Sherry for a complimentary session on The SeamLess Life™ approach or for information on coaching and professional mentoring.

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Sherry Lowry, MCC
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Tips in Leading the Seamless Life™
#14 - On Resilience Toning

Welcome back to the universal trait of Resilience. Everyone has it - so how do we make the most of it?

Recently we've introduced the following:
- Resilience as a spring-back factor
    (Issue #15)
- a resilience check-list to test your resilience muscle (Issue #16)

S0oooo...what if last week when you told the truth reviewing the Resilience Checklist you learned Resilience is something you now want more of in your life? The logical next steps could be toning, expanding, strengthening your resilience spring-back muscle. The key to this, just as it is for "staying in shape" at the gym of life otherwise is: attention, consistency, and commitment.


For starters, you can learn to become highly attuned and sensitive to your "Resilience Voice." The odds are good it will show up for each of you in a preferred communication mode:

  • VISUAL: Images in your mind, dreams, fantasies, or in your descriptive languaging. Start noticing what you "see" in your mind's eye plus what you notice in the 'here and now' physically your eye lands on and picks out.

  • AUDITORY: As a narrative voice you're prompted to write in -- or as you literally "think in words" vs in pictures. Check back in your journalings and jottings and you may find surprising written themes of relevance of your resilience.

  • KINESTHETIC: As in a hunch, an intuitive flash, or a specific, trusted presence or "sense of things" you just feel in your gut or in your bones.

    This is also all of that you know in "hindsight" you can learn to see in foresight....intuition and resilience are highly related. As you can see, keys running through this are all about increasing our awareness and our noticings and listenings to your own internal and externally received cues.

  • About the Author:

    Diane Menendez, Ph.D., M.C.C., business and life coach, has been a full-time professional coach since 1988. She's coached 350+ executive and professional clients to achieve their goals and, in the process, to create work and lives which are richly satisfying.

    Diane's domain name,, is an expression of her belief that, "Your work supports you to thrive when it brings you rich financial rewards and great joy." Yes, that's what she means -- real joy, enough to make your heart dance.

    Contact Diane for a complimentary coaching session to help you discover your brilliance.

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    HeartDance, Cincinnati, Ohio USA
    Ph: (513)474-1137

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    By attuning to your Resilience Style you can become more self-understanding, self-supportive, and also self-forgiving. What we're learning also through the quest for a more SeamLess Life™ is the benefits you're willing to give yourself, you then have more ability to also give to others. So - it could be by toning up your own resilience access, you can also help bridge this for others key in your life.

    Here are some indicators as to your possible Resilience Style -- and do note this changes and fluctuates for all of us. But -- we probably each occupy all of these state at some point.

    • Balanced Resilience: capabilities developed in many areas; gives flexibility, easier choice for give/take; heightened consciousness of your own strengths; willingness to tackle challenges vs avoid them.

    • Paradoxical Resilience: highly resilient in areas of expertise or in certain settings; sense of inadequacy or anxiousness in others. Recommendation: transferring and generalizing skills and identifying new needed skills to develop is a feasible way to move a person who is paradoxically resilient to a state of more balanced resilience.

    • Stellar Resilience: hmmmm...are you a Warrior Man or Warrior Woman of the world? "Take the Hill! At All or Any Cost!?" If so, you may be so determined, so tenacious to be and stay on top of yourself -- you can victimize your ability of your innate resilience to serve you adequately. A "more is better" belief can lead directly to a Lone-Ranger style and low-trust of others mindset when what you may need and want most is outreach and support. Recommendation: Use The SeamLess Life™ suggestions

    Coming Soon!

    We'll begin to talk about becoming artfully resilient and learning the language of the "graceful No."

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