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business owners, other coaches, psychologists/ therapists, and professionals
in transition. She has developed seven businesses,
including one non-profit with 20,000 clients. Sherry leads group telephone
conferences and trainings with other field experts on marketing with heart,
using public speaking in marketing, and for therapists transitioning as
coaches. A board member on the International Coach Federation, Sherry is
credentialed at their Master Certifed Coach level and participates in the
Professional Coaches’ and Mentor’s Association.
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Austin, Texas USA
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Tips in Leading the Seamless Life™
#14 - On Resilience Toning
Welcome back to the universal trait of Resilience. Everyone has it - so how do
we make the most of it?
Recently we've introduced the following:
- Resilience as a spring-back factor
- a resilience check-list to test your resilience muscle (Issue #16)
S0oooo...what if last week when you told the truth reviewing the
Resilience Checklist you learned Resilience
is something you now want more of
in your life? The logical next steps could be toning, expanding, strengthening
your resilience spring-back muscle. The key to this, just as it is for
"staying in shape" at the gym of life otherwise is: attention, consistency,
#1. *YOUR RESILIENCE VOICE*
For starters, you can learn to become highly attuned and sensitive to your
"Resilience Voice." The odds are good it will show up for each of you in a
preferred communication mode:
VISUAL: Images in your mind, dreams, fantasies, or in your descriptive
languaging. Start noticing what you "see" in your mind's eye plus what you
notice in the 'here and now' physically your eye lands on and picks out.
AUDITORY: As a narrative voice you're prompted to write in -- or as you
literally "think in words" vs in pictures. Check back in your journalings and
jottings and you may find surprising written themes of relevance of your
KINESTHETIC: As in a hunch, an intuitive flash, or a specific, trusted
presence or "sense of things" you just feel in your gut or in your bones.
This is also all of that you know in "hindsight" you can learn to see in
foresight....intuition and resilience are highly related. As you can see, keys
running through this are all about increasing our awareness and our noticings
and listenings to your own internal and externally received cues.
About the Author:
Diane Menendez, Ph.D., M.C.C., business and life coach, has been a full-time professional coach since 1988. She's coached 350+ executive and professional clients to achieve their goals and, in the process, to create work and lives which are richly satisfying.
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#2. *YOUR RESILIENCE STYLE*
By attuning to your Resilience Style you can become more self-understanding,
self-supportive, and also self-forgiving. What we're learning also through the
quest for a more SeamLess Life™ is the benefits you're willing to give
yourself, you then have more ability to also give to others. So - it could be
by toning up your own resilience access, you can also help bridge this for
others key in your life.
Here are some indicators as to your possible Resilience Style -- and do note
this changes and fluctuates for all of us. But -- we probably each occupy all
of these state at some point.
- Balanced Resilience: capabilities developed in many areas; gives
flexibility, easier choice for give/take; heightened consciousness of your own
strengths; willingness to tackle challenges vs avoid them.
- Paradoxical Resilience: highly resilient in areas of expertise or in certain
settings; sense of inadequacy or anxiousness in others. Recommendation:
transferring and generalizing skills and identifying new needed skills to
develop is a feasible way to move a person who is paradoxically resilient to a
state of more balanced resilience.
- Stellar Resilience: hmmmm...are you a Warrior Man or Warrior Woman of the
world? "Take the Hill! At All or Any Cost!?" If so, you may be so determined,
so tenacious to be and stay on top of yourself -- you can victimize your
ability of your innate resilience to serve you adequately. A "more is better"
belief can lead directly to a Lone-Ranger style and low-trust of others
mindset when what you may need and want most is outreach and support.
Recommendation: Use The SeamLess Life™ suggestions