The SeamLess Life

Tip #15 - January 18, 1999

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Sherry Lowry, MA/MS, M.C.C., is a professional mentor and business coach for executives, business owners, other coaches, psychologists/ therapists, and professionals in transition. She has developed seven businesses, including one non-profit with 20,000 clients. Sherry leads group telephone conferences and trainings with other field experts on marketing with heart, using public speaking in marketing, and for therapists transitioning as coaches. A board member on the International Coach Federation, Sherry is credentialed at their Master Certifed Coach level and participates in the Professional Coaches’ and Mentor’s Association.

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Tips in Leading the Seamless Life™
#15 - Applying The Graceful 'No' to the Fifth Week

Diane and Sherry are practising the use of "the graceful no" this week and next by saying:

"As much as we'd like to deliver Part II of "The Graceful No" we are instead asking to submit Tip #15 and Tip #16 -- to help you apply what we've given you so far in your work-life, social-life, and family-life."

Here 'tis Tip #16, an extension on our very first SeamLess Life™ Tip, but first, a recap of Tip #1 - The "Fifth" Week

In this tip, we reminded you there is actually a full month of extra time you can take advantage of every year if you think in terms of your work-week being composed of four monthly Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays. Why is that? Because there are actually FIVE of at least one of these in every single month. Look at January '99, for example: You will find there are five Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays in this month.

Here's the suggestion and our Tip #15: Take all the ideas we gave you last week in Article #18 - Saying The Graceful 'No': Part I and apply them the rest of January. You might say things like the following:


  • "I'd love to -- but you know, I reserve the fifth occurrence of the days of the week every month for my personal intentions, my family, and to "clear my desk." You've asked me about Friday, January 29th. That day is all booked up with me 'at desk' to complete meeting all these deadlines."

  • "Thanks for asking! Wish I could -- AND you know this is the 5th weekend coming up in January, the 30th and 31st. I always take advantage of this extra calendar time to go on retreat for my spirit-time.'ll find me at the cabin in the woods."

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    Diane Menendez, Ph.D., M.C.C., business and life coach, has been a full-time professional coach since 1988. She's coached 350+ executive and professional clients to achieve their goals and, in the process, to create work and lives which are richly satisfying.

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  • "Go fishing with you Saturday, January 30th? Oh, boy! You bet! I forgot it was the fifth Saturday this month -- sure! I have that day all reserved for whatever comes up that sounds wonderful on my calendar. Thanks for asking! I can say "no" to the rest of the world and go with you. We deserve it and I always have the fifth Saturdays free!"

    You get the idea! ;-)

    Here's the request:

    Look at your calendar for ALL of 1999. Mark off every single fifth occurrence of every day of the year. You will find this gives youone full month of extra time in your life. If it's a work-day for you -- and you have no real choice about that -- we're asking you to make that a 'choice day' with NO pre-set appointments at all insofar as you have control. We want you to have those days completely free even as late as the day before -- to elect and choose exactly what you put into that time. The point is it's yours.

    If you have to attend a meeting no matter what -- then make that the only thing on the entire day someone else schedules FOR you -- and the rest of the time use as you elect. That may be straightening out your files, catching up with projects, or eating bonbons -- but the key is you've chosen it.

    If it's a day you can take off as a Spirit Day, just to recharge you and your Spirit, that's terrific and we recommend it. If it's a partial or full fifth weekend -- we advise you to fill it only with those things you most enjoy and really want to have for your own fulfilment or reflection -- or pre-preparation for what's up next.

    Gracefully yours,
    Diane and Sherry

  • Next Week:

    Tip #16 - Using The Graceful 'No' to Create MORE Free Time

    Coming Soon...

    Issue #19: The Graceful 'NO' - Part II

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