About the Author:
Sherry Lowry, MA/MS, M.C.C., is a professional mentor and business coach for executives,
business owners, other coaches, psychologists/ therapists, and professionals
in transition. She has developed seven businesses,
including one non-profit with 20,000 clients. Sherry leads group telephone
conferences and trainings with other field experts on marketing with heart,
using public speaking in marketing, and for therapists transitioning as
coaches. A board member on the International Coach Federation, Sherry is
credentialed at their Master Certifed Coach level and participates in the
Professional Coaches’ and Mentor’s Association.
Contact Sherry for a complimentary session on The SeamLess Life™ approach or for information on
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Sherry Lowry, MCC
Austin, Texas USA
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Tips in Leading the Seamless Life™
#17 - The UnGraceful "Yes"
Today we'll ask you to reflect on the value of the use of your time and how
you control your life through your use of "yes" and "no." We've asked you to
acquire the capacity to use "The Graceful No" over the past few weeks.
It's as important to learn to avoid the use of an UnGraceful "Yes" as it is to
give yourself the gift of acquiring the art of The Graceful "No."
A story for your reflection:
An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his
employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house
building business and live a more leisurely life with
his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss
the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get
by. The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go
and asked if he could build just one more house as a
personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it
was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He
resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior
materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.
When the carpenter finished his work and the builder
came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the
front-door key to the carpenter. "This is your house,"
he said, "my gift to you."
What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he
was building his own house, he would have done it all so
differently. Now he had to live in the home he had
built none too well. So it is with us. We build our
lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting,
willing to put up less than the best. At important
points we do not give the job our best effort. Then
with a shock we look at the situation we have created
and find that we are now living in the house we have
built. If we had realized, we would have done it
About the Author:
Diane Menendez, Ph.D., M.C.C., business and life coach, has been a full-time professional coach since 1988. She's coached 350+ executive and professional clients to achieve their goals and, in the process, to create work and lives which are richly satisfying.
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Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your
house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or
erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you
will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day
more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with
The plaque on the wall says,
Life is a do-it-yourself project. |
Who could say it more clearly? Your life
today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the
past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your
attitudes and the choices you make today.
- Author unknown
If we think of every "Yes" we deliver is a commitment to Self, both in the
present and in the future, then our personal "yeses" could become one of our
most important investments.
Benefit: When we are as thoughtful with our "yeses" as we are with our "no's"
- everyone is served.