About the Author:
Sherry Lowry, MA/MS, M.C.C., is a professional mentor and business coach for executives,
business owners, other coaches, psychologists/ therapists, and professionals
in transition. She has developed seven businesses,
including one non-profit with 20,000 clients. Sherry leads group telephone
conferences and trainings with other field experts on marketing with heart,
using public speaking in marketing, and for therapists transitioning as
coaches. A board member on the International Coach Federation, Sherry is
credentialed at their Master Certifed Coach level and participates in the
Professional Coaches’ and Mentor’s Association.
Contact Sherry for a complimentary session on The SeamLess Life™ approach or for information on
coaching and professional mentoring.
Sherry Lowry, MCC
Austin, Texas USA
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Tips in Leading the Seamless Life™
#18 - When "Yes" Is "No" and "No" is "Yes"
Over the past few weeks we've confirmed for many that if you don't
believe you can elegantly say, "No," you may not say it at all.
However, we're not sure you're clear of the expense of this. The reality may be that
every time we say "Yes," we've already said "No" to something - and, if
so, we have a lifetime of practice. When you say any "Yes," that means
implicitly your time and energy are not as readily available for other
options you could choose.
When you say "Yes" to creating a new product or service as a business owner,
you could simultaneously be saying "No" (for example) to any one of the following:
- increased family time
- more staff attention
- higher quality personal time
- a shorter workday
- Saturday's off
- improving current products/services
The reciprocal is also true. When you say, "No," or "Not yet" to anything, you're
saying, "Yes" to other possibilities you've prioritized. By saying
"No" to taking on a demanding new client who needs you on weekends, you may be
saying "Yes" to your garden, attending your child's soccer games, special outings with your family, volunteering at the hospital,
developing excellence for other clients, or leisurely lolling.
Here's an invitation to crystalline clarity - offered with credit and thanks to
our colleagues at Coach Training Institute, Laura Whitworth, et al,
Co-Active Coaching - New Skills for Coaching People Toward Success
in Work and Life, © 1998, Davies-Black Publishing)
for the generous "loaning" of their exercise documented
Map your exchanges (below) and get clear about what your own life exchanges
are really all about. In Column #1 write in the "Yeses" and "Noes" you've
taken stands for in the past two weeks. In Column #2, write down what this may
have meant, in your personal case, that you've committed to or exchanged.
About the Author:
Diane Menendez, Ph.D., M.C.C., business and life coach, has been a full-time professional coach since 1988. She's coached 350+ executive and professional clients to achieve their goals and, in the process, to create work and lives which are richly satisfying.
Diane's domain name, www.HeartDance.com, is an expression of her belief that, "Your work supports you to thrive when it brings you rich financial rewards and great joy." Yes, that's what she means -- real joy,
enough to make your heart dance.
Contact Diane for a complimentary coaching session to help you discover your brilliance.
HeartDance, Cincinnati, Ohio USA