The SeamLess Life

Tip #3 - June 12, 1998

About the Author:

Sherry Lowry is a Austin-based business coach who works nationally and internationally with executives, managers, business owners, other coaches, psychologists and therapists. She brings experience to her clients as a founder and developer of 7 businesses, including one non-profit organization, as a consultant and trainer, and professional mentor. Co-leading group telecalls (via regular telephone connection) and telegroup series is a speciality....with other field experts on corporate marketing, using public speaking as a marketing tool, marketing with heart, and offers with Diane Menendez special teleclasses for mental health professionals transitioning as coaches. In 1996, Sherry founded and continues to host The Coaches’ Showcase, a free theme-based telegroup exchange with some of the industry’s most experienced coaches. Also useful is her online collection of The Lowry Notes - free to the public at her WWW site. She holds two traditional graduate degrees and has completed the Coach University curriculum. She is on the Board of International Coach Federation and is a member of Professional Coaches’ and Mentor’s Association and Texas Executive Women.

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Sherry Lowry, MCC
Austin, Texas, USA
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Tips in Leading the Seamless Life™
#3 - Truth Talks

In last week's issue we spoke of the importance of identifying your essential Needs and starting to arrange to get these more sufficiently met.

The Next Step:
Begin to have 'truth talks' with your Needs.

The truth is Needs are NOT walking wounds or black holes. Along with the thinking of Abraham Maslow, they simply are what IS. Just as we have no problem with needing oxygen, water, food, shelter, and security....we also need things like love, affection, approval, and inclusion. In many cases, structure and order are also very nice to have.

Things like this simply help us be our best and do our best. They are good and useful self-investments to put in place, day-in and day-out.

So...this week it would be helpful to pay attention to what Stephen Covey also brought forward in his concept of "sharpening the saw." Take these key Needs you've now identified and grow to know which of them help you find effectiveness, strength or renewal in the realms of:

  • physical
  • mental
  • emotional-social
  • spiritual
  • community
  • special relationship

Make a commitment to examine the exchanges and the costs you now confront in how you are meeting each of your Needs in these arenas. Once you have a bit of clarity here, list at least one less expensive, less demanding and more effortless way you can meet each Need.

Put whatever you need to in place for the next week to set up win/win situations for yourself in these areas. Reschedule, reprioritize, call in your return favors, take a few hours off, underpromise more, say "no" or "not now" (or even dare to say "Never!") -- and build in more special treats for you all week. Whatever it takes. Be brave!

Then -- Sit and bask in this set of victories for the rest of this week. See for yourself first hand what it feels like to have these Needs more sufficiently met.

Rejoin us next week. We'll delve into the whole concept of Values.....and why honoring and living through them is very important to the approach of The SeamLess Life™ that deeply satisfies.

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About the Author:

Diane Menendez, Ph.D., is a business and personal success coach. She has been coaching since 1983 when she began the High Performance Coaching process as an internal staff coach at AT&T. Since 1988 she has coached more than 250 business executives in Fortune 100 companies and has provided leadership for company-wide efforts in executive and leadership development. Menendez’s special niche in executive coaching is providing support to leaders of rapidly changing industries who are committed to transforming their personal leadership styles. She has successfully transferred her skills to work with entrepreneurs, other business owners, family owned business leadership, and non-profit executives and their organizations. She created Results-Focused Leadership Development, an intensive, creative and empowering process that influences and inspires client to fully develop their leadership potential while supporting their company’s mission and goals. Her passions are inspiring the success of family business members, entrepreneurs and therapists and other professionals in transition. Her www domain name,, is an expression of her belief that, “Our work can bring us joy as well as financial rewards.” Yes, that’s what she means -- real joy, enough to make your heart dance.
Contact info: HeartDance, Cincinnati, Ohio USA, 513-474-1137, 1-800-882-9383;
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