Susan Fee

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Here’s how you can jumpstart your life and get out your rut.

Stuck in a Rut?

“My life is so boring!” I frequently hear this complaint. It’s usually followed by, “But I don’t know what else to do.” To quote writer Molly Ivins, “The first rule of holes: when you’re in one, stop digging.” What do you start doing? Follow these tips for a jumpstart.

Own It
If you want to change your life, be 100% responsible for making it happen. Stop waiting for outside forces to change before you start living. If you start your sentences with, “Someday, when,” you’re putting your life on hold. What you have is NOW.

Change One Thing
It’s been said many times before; the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result. If you’re in a rut, you’re deeply entrenched in repetitive patterns. Become aware of them, and then change just one thing. It doesn’t matter how small. You have to change the equation to get a different result.

Live Consciously
Have you ever been driving your car, drifted off in thought, and then suddenly arrived at your destination, and you don’t remember how you got there? If so, you’re operating on auto-pilot. Force yourself to be in the moment. Look around. Can you name five landmarks on your route to work that you’ve never noticed before? What color are the store clerk’s eyes? If you just spent 30 minutes in the doctor’s waiting room, can you describe the chair you sat in or the pictures on the wall? Living in the moment takes energy. The good news is, it generates energy too.

Model Success
Recall a time when your life was more exciting. What was different? Are those things still happening in your life now? Chances are, you’ve drifted away from what you know works for you. You might not be able to totally re-create past circumstances. But, take pieces of it, and start doing them again immediately.

Energy In, Energy Out
What you focus on expands. If you put all your energy into being in a rut – guess what? It gets a deeper. Shift your attention to what you want to create more of in your life. It may be the smallest ray of sunshine. But, whatever you invest your energy in will grow.

Susan Fee is a licensed counselor, life coach, and corporate trainer. She is the author of two communication tips booklets that may be ordered through her Website, She is also the author of the college survival book, “My Roommate is Driving Me Crazy! Solve Conflicts, Set Boundaries, and Survive the College Roommate from Hell”(Adams Media). Visit the website for free college survival tips. Susan also conducts one-on-one executive coaching in interpersonal and public speaking skills and teaches individuals how to identify and reach their personal goals. Past clients include Disney, Motorola, and United Airlines.

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